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5 Most Common Reasons People Cheat

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Having an affair because they’re unhappy with the relationship

Some people are addicted to cheating on their partners, while others happen to cheat out of the blue. Some people cheat because they need a lot of validation, but I think that the most common reason people are cheating on their partners is because they are unhappy. If your relationship isn’t going as well as you thought it would be, you might start feeling bored and depressed. And so when you meet someone who makes you feel happy and excited, you end up sleeping with them. Having an affair because you’re unhappy in your relationship is a good reason to break up with your current partner. Instead of fooling around behind their back and potentially causing them heartache — break up with them. If you have cheated on your partner and don’t know how to tell them, read our guide on the subject.

Cheaters usually cheat when their sexual needs aren’t met

Some people want to have it all; they want a good looking partner who is nice, funny, smart, and good in bed. However, having all these characteristics is very unlikely, which is why some people end up cheating. The older we get, the less sexualy active we feel, which is only normal, but unfortunately this causes some people to end up cheating on their partners. If your sexual needs aren’t being met by your partner, it isn’t uncommon for someone to start looking for sex elsewhere. If you love your partner because they get and know you, but they keep telling you ‘not tonight’, it is usually only a matter of time before you go nuts.

Why do people have affairs when they’re insecure?

Insecure people are the most likely to cheat because they constantly need to be validated by others. If an insecure person is in a relationship and they feel as though their partner isn’t giving them enough attention, they might start seeking attention on social media or at work. This can lead them to talking to someone who wants to see them in person, which can ultimately cause them to cheat.

Cheating to end a relationship

In some cases, people end up cheating on their spouses or loved ones because they don’t know how else to get out of the relationship. If they have tried to break up with their partner before but haven’t been able to because they end up crying or saying that they can power through it, cheating might start looking like the easy way out. Since cheating is easier than making a new friend in Dubbo, a lot of people will just resort to this instead of breaking up properly.

Is being provoked a good enough reason for cheating?

Not everyone wants to cheat on their loved ones, but some just end up doing it because they couldn’t say no. If someone is obviously unhappy in their marriage and a stranger or co-worker starts flirting with them and making them feel special, the chances of getting them to cheat on their partners are very high. Being provoked into cheating isn’t a legit reason for committing adultery but it does happen all the time. If your partner admitted to cheating and wants to work things out, read our guide on how to find happiness after infidelity.

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Telling Your Partner That You Know They Cheated

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So they thought they could get away with having an affair

I started suspecting that my partner was having an affair when he began acting funny. When we first moved in together, it was common for him to finish work early and come home to surprise me, but now it’s almost as if he’s always working overtime. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, but when he started acting even more bizarre, I knew something was up. He started coming home late almost every night and immediately jumping in the shower. This was strange to me because he would usually always come into the bedroom and give me a kiss when he got home late. Another thing that was weird to me was that he didn’t invite me into the shower — which he always used to do. All these clues eventually lead me to believe that he was having an affair.

How you caught them cheating — explained

I knew that my boyfriend was cheating on me for sure the second that I did his laundry. I was emptying out his pockets because he usually has tissues in them when I found a receipt to a fancy restaurant in Sunderland. The date on the receipt was for two nights ago (when he was working late) and it was obvious that it had been a romantic dinner because a bottle of wine had been purchased. Now that I had proof that he was cheating, I needed to find a way that I could tell him, but I was afraid.

What to do about a cheater: Telling them you know

Before engaging in a relationship, you need to know what to do about a cheater, if you should ever be unlucky enough to date one. I knew from a friend that the best way to handle a cheater was to make them think that everything was normal and then pack up their things and wait for them to come home so that you could kick them out. Since cheaters might become violent when provoked, you should let a friend know what you are about to do and have them come over and hide in another room. Telling them you know about the cheating is scary, because it is a confrontation of some sort, but if you make it clear that they need to leave, they usually will.

Cheaters usually get caught

Cheaters usually get caught, and the ones that don’t were either dating someone who didn’t care enough to find out, someone who was cheating themselves, or someone who wasn’t too bright. It is very rare that a cheater will not get caught, so before cheating, get ready to deal with the consequences.

Telling them it’s over

When my boyfriend came home from home late the following day, he came home to me sitting in the couch waiting for him. He immediately looked nervous because he couldn’t hop into the shower right away and smelt like another woman. Once he saw that all of his things had been packed up, he sat down and asked me what was happening. I told him I knew he was cheating, that I would not forgive him, and that he had to go. He tried to argue with me for a while, saying I had no proof, but then I showed him the restaurant receipt, and he stopped talking.

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Having a healthy relationship after an affair

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When Cheating Rears its Ugly Head

When cheating rears its ugly head in a relationship, it may be a symptom of an underlying problem and not the problem itself. That’s why most marriages and relationships nowadays survive infidelity, because infidelity is no longer seen as a betrayal.

Cheating happens for a variety of reasons. Sometimes one of the parties is not ready for a serious long term relationship. Other times there may be an underlying psychological problem like sex addiction, or a propensity to self-sabotage. Often, when the latter happens, it happens out of fear screwing up the relationship. Ironically, people screw up relationships because they’re afraid to screw up relationships. It makes no sense to those who have to deal with cheating partners, but self-sabotage is a very real phenomenon and it happens frequently by folks who have unnaturally low opinions of themselves.

So a lot of times cheating is forgivable. If you’re dating someone who doesn’t have a lot of dating experience, then you should expect that they’re going to want to go out there and see what else life has to offer them. If you’re dating someone who has a propensity for self-sabotage, you can expect that if things get too serious they’re going to find a way to try and screw it up. If you love them, don’t let them.

Sometimes it happens that one partner in a relationship finds themselves in a monogamous relationship when they’re not really well suited for that kind of relationship. They would instead prefer to have multiple lovers or keep their options open and casual. There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with this, but you have to ask yourself if that’s something that you want for yourself. If not then you should let them go be who they are and enjoy their life while you find a partner who fits your needs.

Infidelity and Your Relationship

If fidelity and monogamy are a big deal to you and they cheated you need to ask yourself if you can handle the fact that they might cheat again. If the reason they cheated wasn’t purely situational, like you guys had a huge fight and weren’t talking and they hooked up with someone else, or you had become emotionally distant, then you might want to consider the probability that they will cheat again.

Is it Possible to Have a Relationship After an Affair?

The better question is: is it possible for you to be ok with the relationship after the affair. If it feels like the relationship will never go back to the way it was and the whole thing is ruined forever, then you need to think about moving forward. Relationships are difficult because too frequently people don’t want the same things from them. When you find someone who wants the same things as you, you’ll be a lot happier.

Fixing the Relationship After Cheating

If the cheating is forgivable then you need to move forward honestly with your partner. That means you being honest about your needs and them being honest about theirs. If they cheated on you and that hurt you, then you don’t want to be in a position where you’re second guessing everything they say about where they were or what they did last night. If this is the case, your relationship may not be fixable.